So look, folks, gotta be honest here. Saw everyone raving about this “John Handsome” guy. His pictures popping up everywhere, right? Friends tagging me, groups blowing up. “Why’s his look so hot?” they all asking. I thought, c’mon, how simple can it really be? Figured I’d try to nail it myself, see what the fuss is about.
First, I took a good, long look at his pics. Zoomed in, studied ’em. Noticed a couple things straight away. His hair? Always kinda messy, but like, messy on purpose, ya know? Not bedhead mess, more like “I woke up cool.” And his clothes? Plain. Like, really plain. Simple t-shirts, maybe a denim jacket. Nothin’ flashy. Colours kinda faded looking too.
Okay, Step One: The Hair Mess. Grabbed my cheap pomade, the stuff I normally slick things back with. Slapped a blob in my palm, rubbed my hands together like I always do, and just kinda shoved my fingers through my hair real fast. Checked the mirror. Instant regret. Looked like a bird had nested on my head after a rainstorm. Wet and spiky, not cool and messy. Way too much product. Total fail.
Washed that disaster out. Round two. Used waaaay less pomade. Like, barely touched it. Dabbed my fingertips, rubbed ’em super light together, then just lightly scrunched the front of my hair up a bit. Messy, but controlled? Sorta? Closer! Still felt a bit sticky, but looked less like a cartoon character.
Next up, The Clothes. Dug through my closet. Found an old grey t-shirt. Washed it like, a hundred times probably, colour faded nicely. Threw that on. Pair of regular blue jeans. Definitely not new, kinda loose fit. Pulled on an old, slightly too big denim shirt over the tee. Left it hanging open. Looked in the mirror. Huh. Started to feel something. It wasn’t fancy at all. Actually felt kinda boring. But it looked… comfortable? Easy? Like I hadn’t tried too hard.
Final piece: The Vibe. Saw it in all his pics. Zero expression. Seriously. Not smiling big, not scowling. Just kinda… looking. Maybe a little squint? Like he’s thinking about the meaning of life or maybe just where he left his charger. Tried it. Stood there. Felt stupid for a minute. Just stared at my phone camera. Tried not to think about anything much. Snapped a pic.
Looking at the finished photo? Not gonna lie, it surprised me. The hair wasn’t perfect, but it had that “kinda messed it up but it worked” thing. The clothes looked comfy and lived-in, not stiff. My face just looked… chill. Almost bored. And that simple picture? Got way more likes than my usual flashy stuff with bright colours and huge grins. People actually messaged asking what I was “going for.”
So here’s what finally clicked for me:
- It Looks Low Effort (Even If It Isn’t): People dig the “just rolled outta bed” style ’cause it feels real. Not staged. Like the dude didn’t spend an hour fussing.
- Comfort is King: Simple clothes that fit okay and look worn-in scream relax. Feels approachable. Who doesn’t wanna look comfortable?
- That Chill Attitude: The blank stare? It stops looking awkward and starts looking like confidence. Like you’re so sure of yourself you don’t gotta prove nothing with a big smile.
Simplest reason? It looks stupidly easy, feels comfy, and makes guys seem kinda low-key confident without trying. Turns out, people really eat that up. Honestly? Kinda annoyed how well it works. Spent years trying fancy looks, and this basic stuff hits different.
