So yesterday I stumbled across this Grant Jay guy on YouTube, totally by accident while avoiding work emails. Figured, what the heck, let’s hear what he’s got to say. Man, did that decision slap me awake.
The Reality Check Punch
Right off the bat, Grant ain’t about that fluffy, “just think positive” crap. He basically yelled at me through the screen: “Stop pretending! Own your crap!” I sat there, coffee cold, staring at my laptop. Couldn’t even argue because deep down? I knew he was dead right. I’d spent months blaming my crappy job, my noisy neighbors, even the damn weather for why I wasn’t writing my book. Truth hurts, but man, it fixes things.
My Morning of Awkward Truth
The next morning, I grabbed my beat-up notebook – not my shiny laptop, felt too intimidating. Sat at my kitchen table with zero distractions. No music, no phone buzzing, just me and my thoughts. Grant talked about digging for the real why behind your actions. So I wrote down the big question: “Why do I keep avoiding writing?”
- First scribble: “Scared it’ll suck.” (Ouch. Hiding behind busywork.)
- Deeper dig: “Scared people will laugh.” (Even bigger ouch. Pride alert.)
- Core root: “Scared of failing… again.” (Bingo. Raw insecurity exposed.)
Seeing that ugly truth written down? Felt like ripping off a bandaid stuck to a hairy arm. Painful, but necessary.
Action Over Perfect Plans
Grant kept hammering: “Done is better than perfect.” Perfect is just procrastination in a fancy coat. So I stopped waiting for the “right time” or the magical outline fairy. That afternoon, I opened a blank document. My brain screamed “IT’S GARBAGE!” for the first ten minutes. Ignored it. Typed one horrible sentence. Then another.
Set a stupidly simple goal: 200 words. Just vomit words onto the page. No editing, no second-guessing. Hit 250. Felt like climbing Everest. Tiny? Yeah. Real? Hell yes. Did this every single day last week. Some days felt like pulling teeth, others flowed better. Progress, not perfection.
The Ripple Effect
Weird thing? This “brutal honesty + tiny action” stuff started leaking into other areas:
- Told a friend “No, can’t help move Saturday” instead of my usual flaky excuse. Felt terrifyingly good.
- Admitted to my partner I messed up the budget. Sucked, but fixed it quicker.
- Finally scheduled that dentist appointment I’d ghosted for months. No more phantom toothache worry.
Grant’s core thing? Truth builds trust, especially with yourself. Stop pretending, start doing, even if it’s messy and small. Feels rocky at first, shaky ground. But then? You build something real on it. Simple? Yep. Easy? Nope. Worth it? Absolutely.
