Okay, so, about this “player” definition in dating. I decided to dive into this because, well, I’ve seen some stuff, and I wanted to know what’s what. Let me tell you, it’s been a ride.
I started by just observing people. You know, friends, people I meet, even myself. No, I didn’t create a checklist, but it’s a good idea. How people act when they’re dating, how they talk about it, the whole nine yards. I noticed some patterns. Some people, they’re all about keeping their options open. That’s cool, I guess, but then there are others who are just straight-up not being real.
My Little Experiment
So I thought, “Why not try to understand this better?” I started talking to people more about their dating lives. Not in a creepy way, just casual conversations. I asked about what they look for, what they avoid, and how they know if someone’s genuine. I was like a novice researcher, gathering information.
I even tried online dating myself, just to see how it works from the inside. I set up a profile, swiped a bit, chatted with some people. It was weird, to be honest. But it gave me some perspective. Some people were cool, some were not. It’s like a mixed bag.
What I Found Out
- Some folks are just having fun. They’re not looking for anything serious, and they’re pretty upfront about it. That’s one type of “player,” I guess, the honest kind.
- Then there are those who pretend they want something real, but they’re really just playing games. They say one thing but do another. That’s the kind that gives “player” a bad name.
- And then, there’s the whole thing about not labeling people. Maybe someone’s not a “player,” maybe they’re just figuring things out. Who knows?
I realized it’s not so black and white. Being a “player” can mean different things to different people. I didn’t download any manuals on how to spot a player, but I learned a lot just by paying attention and talking to people.
At the end of the day, I decided to just focus on being real myself and looking for that in others. It’s less about figuring out who’s a “player” and more about finding people who are genuine. It is not a course, but I’ve shared my little journey with you. And maybe that’s enough, I hope this makes sense. I’m just sharing what I’ve experienced, and I hope it helps someone out there. Stay real, folks.
